Are you preparing for labour? Gai O’Dwyer shares some strategies to overcome fear and embrace your upcoming labour with a whole new mindset.
If you are having your first child it is quite normal that you may have some trepidation going into labour, generally when something is unfamiliar or a brand new experience we can become fearful.
Many pregnant women associate labour as a time of extreme pain and a physical battle. This thinking can consume some women for the whole nine months the focus is than lost on all the other special and amazing things pregnancy brings.
I am not dismissing that labour is painful or very physical although both of these factors can be significantly reduced through mindset, enabling strength, endurance, and control in a situation that may seem out of your hands. I had my first child, Freya, almost five years ago. She was premature, I was induced as she was posterial and I had her in five hours naturally. I am sharing this story not for my own significance rather to demonstrate even-though the events leading up to this labour were not ideal I had a really positive labour and I know that 90 to 98 per cent of this was due to my mental preparation – MINDSET.
You may be wondering how your mind can be more powerful than your physical body?
Studies have proven that your mind calibrates at an energy field of 400 and your physical body calibrates at an energy field of 200.
What does this tell us?
OUR PHYSICAL BODY WILL ALWAYS FOLLOW OUR MIND.
We focus on our physical health during pregnancy and labour and I agree it is a must as is our mental preparation. Think of your mind as a computer your thoughts, feelings, beliefs you have are the software that is feeding your computer. Its is crucial that what you are saying to yourself and others is top quality software.
The first step to preparing our mind is to become aware of what we are saying or not saying to ourselves. For example, if we are saying that labour is going to be horrible, scary and excruciating well our physical body will obey the mind.
One negative feeling instantly causes a loss of 50 per cent of the body’s muscle strength also narrows down our vision both physically and mentally.
Be careful of who’s advice you listen to – even well intentioned friends, other mums, relatives, love to share their birth stories that can accelerate your own fear. Just because someone or many women had a negative experience is not evidence that you will. Bring the focus back to you, your mindset and your experience.
Future pace and visualise, this is a wonderful Neuro Linguistic technique where you visualise how you want to FEEL THINK, HEAR and SEE before labour, during labour and after labour. To get the best results it’s good to be in a quiet space with your eyes closed and repeat over and over, by doing this your are programming your computer – your unconscious mind.
Finally, relax and don’t get too consumed in the labour. Ask any woman that’s been there, the hard work really begins when you bring that beautiful baby home.
Recently launched my first series of audio books for children aged two to six years. These audio books have been created around typical experiences a child may have at this age e.g. Moving House, Bed Time, Going to the Hospital etc. I have used many Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques to assist children if they are experiencing fear, anxiety, anger. These audios are the foundation for challenging children’s thinking and introduction to self awareness. These funny quirky stories are supported with fantastic fun sound effects. https://www.facebook.com/gai.odwyer