It is totally normal to feel triggered by your child from time to time. Parenting can be a tough job, and it’s natural to have emotional reactions when things get stressful or overwhelming. Here’s why it happens.
By Mama Disrupt®
Mama, it’s okay if you find yourself feeling triggered by your child, because there is always SO much going on – the noise, the constant demand of attention, and the inability to think straight. It is a lot.
If you find yourself in this headspace just take a deep breath and think about why you’re feeling this way. Because chances are, there is a root cause [and sometimes it’s not actually your kiddo].
Stepping back and looking at the bigger picture can make all the difference.
1. Unresolved emotional issues
Sometimes, your own unresolved emotional issues from your childhood or past experiences can get triggered when interacting with your child.
For example, a person who experienced rejection or neglect as a child may feel triggered when their own child behaves in ways that remind them of their own experiences.
2. High stress levels
Motherhood can be stressful, especially if you are juggling multiple responsibilities. When stress levels are high, it can be easy to become irritable and easily triggered by your child’s behavior.
3. Unmet needs
If you have unmet needs in your own life, you may become triggered when your child’s behaviour prevents you from fulfilling those needs.
For example, if you are feeling lonely or isolated, you may become frustrated when your child demands your attention, leading to feelings of anger or resentment.
4, Developmental differences
Sometimes, a child’s developmental differences or challenges can be triggering for parents. For example, a child with ADHD or autism may have difficulty following rules or regulating their behavior, which can be challenging for you to manage.
Once you have pinpointed what is actually causing you to feel this way, then take the steps to manage your stress levels and ensure that your own needs are being met. This can make a massive difference in helping reduce triggers and improve your relationship with your child.
If you find that these feelings aren’t going away, it is a good idea to chat to a health professional. Because they can help you work through any underlying emotional issues that may be contributing to your reactions.
Just remember that you are doing the best you can. You got this, mama.