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Healing the mother wound

In Features, Motherhood, Stories by Nicole Fuge

Have you heard of the “Mother Wound”? It’s a topic that’s gaining a lot of attention, so let’s dive right in and find out how it can empower you on your motherhood adventure.

By Mama Disrupt®

So, what exactly is the Mother Wound? The term refers to the emotional and psychological pain passed down through generations of women due to societal and cultural expectations of motherhood.

It’s the deep-rooted feeling of not being good enough, a sense of guilt, and the fear of not living up to the ideal image of a “perfect mother.”

The Mother Wound can manifest in different ways, but it often affects self-esteem, relationships, and the ability to fully embrace the joys of motherhood.

But don’t worry, mama! We’re here to support you. Let’s explore how the Mother Wound is impacting modern mothers and how you can take steps to overcome it.

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The Mother Wound’s Effects on Modern Mothers

Today’s mamas face a whole new world of challenges.

We’re juggling careers, family life, and personal wellbeing, all while trying to be the best version of ourselves. Social media can add to the pressure, as we’re bombarded with images of seemingly perfect lives and flawless mothering moments.

In reality, we all know that motherhood is messy, unpredictable, and sometimes downright exhausting.

The Mother Wound can exacerbate these feelings of inadequacy, adding to the weight of daily struggles.

You may find yourself in a cycle of guilt and shame, feeling like you’re never doing enough, and fearing judgment from others. This emotional burden can take a toll on your mental health, relationships, and overall happiness.

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Steps to Heal and Overcome the Mother Wound
1. Acknowledge your feelings

Recognise that your feelings of guilt, shame, and inadequacy are linked to the Mother Wound. This is the first step in breaking the cycle and taking control of your healing journey.

Remember, you are not alone in this experience, and there’s no shame in seeking support.

2. Seek professional help

A therapist or counselor can help you navigate the complex emotions surrounding the Mother Wound. They can provide tools and coping strategies to help you break free from the cycle of pain and self-doubt.

3. Connect with other mothers

Build a support network of fellow mamas who understand the ups and downs of motherhood. Share your experiences, fears, and triumphs.

By fostering genuine connections, you’ll realise that your feelings are shared by many, and you’ll find comfort in knowing that you’re not alone.

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4. Challenge societal norms

Question the unrealistic expectations placed upon mothers, and remember that perfection is unattainable. Embrace your authentic self, and let go of the need to fit into the mould of the “ideal mother”.

5. Practice self-compassion

Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, as you would a dear friend. Focus on your strengths and accomplishments, rather than dwelling on perceived shortcomings.

6. Set boundaries

Prioritise self-care and know when to say no. Establish boundaries that protect your well-being and ensure that you have time and energy for yourself.

Mama, you deserve to enjoy your motherhood journey free from the burden of the Mother Wound. By acknowledging its impact, seeking support, and committing to self-care, you’ll be well on your way to healing and thriving in your role as a mother.

Remember, you’re doing an amazing job – and we’re cheering you on every step of the way!