Did you know that you can teach yourself to be happy? Yup! My life is not that much different to what it was seven years ago, the only major change is that I’m more aware of my thoughts and how they shape my perception of the world. Though this awareness and action, I’ve built a business I loved, improved my relationships all around me and learnt to love every single part of myself, inside and out! But on the outside, life looks pretty much the same. It just feels sooo much better!
I wanted to share with you some habits that I’ve cultivated over the last few years which have had a HUGE impact on my day-to-day happiness. The best part, they’re so easy to bring into your own life and make such a massive difference to how you feel – plus they’re habits you can teach your own children… because they are always watching (and copying) what their mamas are doing!
1 // TREAT EVERYONE WITH RESPECT AND KINDNESS
This doesn’t just make you feel good, but the ripple effect spreads more than you’ll know. When you’re kind to other people, your brain produces hormones that actually make you feel good. Even if you don’t feel each and every person deserves your kindness and attention, they do. Remember that.
2 // EXPRESS GRATITUDE
This goes without saying. But don’t keep it in, express it all through the day. To yourself, to other people, use social media to share your happiness with others. Make it an unbreakable habit to be grateful all the time.
3 // HAVE DREAMS AND WORK TOWARDS THEM
My friend Revie Jane has a great work moto: Dream Big, Chase Hard. I have personally found that having my business and having a dream to work towards makes me a happier person. My dream is huge, I want worldwide impact, but I chase that hard and I don’t let the gravity of the size bring me down, it lifts me up. Find your dream, chase it!
4 // COMPLIMENT PEOPLE
But never compare yourself. It’s so easy to compliment someone and end it with a dig at yourself, but where does that leave you? In Jealousy Land hanging out on Loser Lane. Just because someone is smart, kind, gorgeous or blessed doesn’t mean you are any less of those things. Compliment people as often as possible and do the same for yourself.
5 // BE AROUND HAPPY PEOPLE
We all have people in our lives that we see and feel instantly uplifted. Spend more time with them, let them know you appreciate them, give them your energy. Just as misery loves company, positivity grows from it also.
6 // LISTEN
When we’re in a deep conversation with someone, the thought isn’t usually towards what the person is saying, it’s about what we’re going to say next. Listening is an art that has been lost. If you’re with someone who needs to talk, listen. Don’t give your opinion unless it’s asked for and just be there for them.
So if you’re struggling with your relationships, feeling fulfilled or simply being happy – try the above and turn them into habits. Become aware of the way you’re acting towards others but most importantly – yourself!